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Your special day is exactly that: your day. You want it to express your love for each other, feelings that might be difficult to put into words. I am here to help you.
After performing hundreds of weddings, I have put together a simple workbook to guide you. I have included the most impressive ceremonies customized for the couples I have joined together on their wedding day.
Whether you want a spiritual, religious or secular ceremony, you will find words that fit the mood you want to create on your wedding day.
Included in the guide:
How to Use This Workbook
Step One: The Processional and Giving Away the Bride
Step Two: The Gathering Words
Step Three: The Opening Prayer
Step Four: Words to the Couple
Step Five: Support from Family and Friends
Step Six: The Readings
Step Seven: The Promises
Step Eight: The Vows
Step Nine: The Exchange of Rings
Step Ten: The Pronouncement
Step Eleven: The Benediction or Closing
Step Twelve: The Presentation of Couple
Sample Civil Ceremony
About Intercultural, Interfaith and Same-Sex Marriages
WEDDING TALES FROM A WEDDING MINISTER, Barbara Lane
I was once a wedding minister. I am now retired, but I've performed hundreds, yes hundreds of weddings ranging from simple couple only ceremonies to 500 or more guests in attendance. Either way, there were inevitable mishaps, providing a lot of material for my writer's tales.
Most weddings go off pretty smoothly, but, I always encouraged my couples to prepare themselves for the snafu that would most likely occur.
"Mishaps will provide stories for you to tell years down the road," I always told my couples. "And you will laugh about them, almost grateful that they happened."
Hitting the topic of imperfect weddings head-on helped a lot of my couples relax into the process and enjoy all if it, no matter what occurred.
Take for example one young bride. I made sure to visit her in the dressing room prior to the ceremony. When I entered, I found her sitting there tears.
"What's wrong?" I inquired in as calm a voice as I could muster.
"Look at me!" She wailed. "I had my hair done and my veil placed, making sure I had my hoop skirt on so that all I would have to do was slip on my wedding dress."
I instantly knew what was occurring. She couldn't get the dress over her hair and veil and the hoop skirt made it impossible for her to step into her dress.
"I'm going to have to get married in this hoop!"
"We'll get this done," I assured her as I sat down on the floor, spread her wedding dress out beside me and told her to place her feet inside.
Little by little I folded and twisted the hoop skirt through the tiny waist line of the dress. Little by little we urged the dress to move upward toward the bride's waiting arms. Little by little, we succeeded.
The next problem was a simple fix. Let's redo the makeup! Her tears turned into bouts of laughter when I said, "I could write a book about this!"
At another wedding, I warned the couple not to put the "real" wedding ring on the ring pillow to be carried by the groom's three-year-old nephew. Still, it was important to them that little Johnny carry the actual ring to the alter.
What happened next? You guessed it. In all the confusion, little Johnny laid the pillow with the rings down--somewhere! Thirty minutes later, with a delayed wedding, they found the pillow lying behind a large floral vase.
Rings are particularly problematic at wedding ceremonies. I once informed a best man not to keep the rings in the box they came in. It closed with a tight "snap" and was difficult to open.
"Why?" he inquired.
"Because, during the ceremony, when you force that box open, the rings could fall out."
Sure enough, when the rings were asked for, the best man opened the box only to have the force of it propel the bride's ring down the aisle, rolling and rolling and rolling the entire way toward an air vent on the floor.
The congregation watched with gasping breath as the ring circled round and round the air vent until it stopped a fraction of an inch away from the vent opening.
Everyone erupted in laughter, except the bride, as the best man ran down the aisle, retrieved the ring and once again took his place with the wedding party.
In all three cases, it didn't take long for the bridal party to be laughing at what had taken place. I could already hear them, years down the road, saying "remember when..."
I have hundreds of tales to tell as a wedding minister, all of which I look back upon with fondness, but also offer advice to couples regarding steps to take to avoid such mishaps.
If you have questions, reach out to me. I'm happy to speak with you to help you make your ceremony the service of your dreams.
Enjoy the planning of your wedding day ceremony!