I was three years old when I entered the orphanage. Here is a picture of me with a sister's arm around me. I wasn't unhappy. I didn't miss my mother. I was surrounded by the love and nurturance of my sisters. But, as is the case with most abandoned children, we were eventually separated and placed into foster care.
I was traumatized by the separation from my sisters. I would carry that within my broken heart for forty-three years. Until...
"Broken Water" tells the true story of my journey to survive an abusive foster home while seeking to reunite with my sisters. It invites the reader to journey with me through a miraculous reunion followed by a fifteen-year effort to learn my family's history and to write each sister's heart-wrenching story of abuse and abandonment. It shares our experiences while living in orphanages, foster care and adoptions. Sadly, the stories of children in the system today are hauntingly familiar.
"Broken Water" is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit, the strength of a bonded sisterhood, and the power found in having faith in miracles and something greater than the self.
I'm pleased to share the preface of my book "Broken Water." It explains how the book came to be and why I wrote it. It places it in the context of current day issues of child abuse.
Rev. Barbara Lane
BECOMING THE ADULT YOUR INNER CHILD NEEDS: Nine Steps to Rescue Your Abused Inner Child.
Everyone has a vulnerable inner child just waiting for recognition and love. The lucky ones received these gifts from primary caretakers, but all too often, some are left trying to fill a void throughout their lives.
This unmet need is carried forward into adulthood and sometimes leads to choices and decisions that are harmful and nonproductive. The need to attach and bond to a loving caretaker is innate but if unfulfilled, can cause destructive choices with partners, jobs, etc. Unconsciously, as driven by the inner child, individuals look outside of themselves to fill that emptiness. Rarely does this end in a happily ever after story.
"Becoming the Adult Your Inner Child Needs," presents a concise yet powerful nine-step program to help you learn how to give your inner child all that is needed to overcome trauma, enhance emotional maturity, experience joy and creativity, and discover the magnificence you were born to embrace. Together, the adult and inner child become one integrated and whole individual. You are the best person to rescue your abused inner child. Find out how.
I have worked with individuals from all walks of life--all races, cultures, and creeds, often referred to me through rehab centers, counselors, psychiatrists, and physicians. In addition, I have spent many years working as a child advocate for abused and neglected children.
The curious, brave, strong, and magnificent child you once were is still within you just waiting to be honored! During my twenty-plus years in practice, I have sat with many who have struggled to come to terms with their past or to deal with current life issues. Even if your childhood was stellar, life events can be traumatizing. I have had my own struggles and presume I will have more.
Healing involves challenging the negative messages you carry around inside your mind and replacing them with words, stories, and expressions that offer hope and reveal your magnificence and the glorious child you once were.
In my efforts to help souls heal from trauma, I am honored to offer a new series of workbooks created to enhance your personal and spiritual growth. Drawing from my years of experience working with individuals, couples and families, these workbooks are designed to help you grow personally and spiritually. Each will also be a helpful resource for counseling sessions, group sessions and church prayer meetings. I hope you find hope and inspiration in each of the upcoming "Broken Water" Personal Growth Workbooks. I am writing them to help you help yourself.
I first started working with Barbara about 2004. When I first came to her I was suffering from depression, anxiety, and self-hatred as a result of many years of abuse from my father as I was growing up. She is absolutely the best counselor that I have ever worked with, and she very likely saved my life.
She is the first person in my life that I ever experienced unconditional love from, and she put me on a successful healing path that continues to this day. I now speak publicly about my years of childhood abuse and my eventual recovery, and I always talk about the most vital part of my recovery, which was working with a fantastic counselor. That counselor was Barbara Lane.
Kelvin Pierce, Author
Sins of My Father: Growing Up with America’s Most Dangerous White SupremacistI
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