You can heal your sorrows. You can share your joys.
I have lived long enough to believe that things happen for a purpose. If you believe that is true, read on dear friend. You are here for a reason.
I am committed to sharing the healing, hope and inspiration that has been showered down upon me during my life thus far--miracles, I guess you could say. To that end, I have written a memoir that is full of opposites: hope and despair, sadness and joy, tears and laughter; a tale of being lost and then found, broken and then mended. I offer my writing to the world with the sincere desire that those who come across "Broken Water" will find within the pages the words for feelings they have yet to express, space to feel them and the inspiration and motivation required to walk their unique path toward healing.
But this book is not about me alone. It is about 11 sisters who journeyed similar paths, though separated from each other. It is about the unbreakable bonds of sisterhood, healing from childhood abuse, and reclaiming a life to be lived to its fullest.
If this sounds like your type of book, please know that 10% of all profits is given to organizations that prevent child abuse. If not, I hope you find the other offerings on these pages to be of benefit to you or someone you love. I speak to you from my open heart. I hope you read and listen from yours.
I was three years old when I entered the orphanage. Here is a picture of me with a sister's arm around me. I wasn't unhappy. I didn't miss my mother. I was surrounded by the love and nurturance of my sisters. But, as is the case with most abandoned children, we were eventually separated and placed into foster care.
I was traumatized by the separation from my sisters. I would carry that within my broken heart for forty-three years. Until...
"Broken Water" is a memoir that tells the true story of my efforts to survive child abuse in a foster home while seeking to reunite with my sisters. It invites the reader to journey with me through a miraculous reunion followed by a 15-year effort to learn my family's history and to write each sister's heart-wrenching story of abuse and abandonment. It shares our experiences while living in orphanages, foster care and adoptions. Sadly, the stories of children in the system today are hauntingly familiar.
"Broken Water" is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit, the strength of a bonded sisterhood, and the power found in having faith in miracles and something greater than the self.
As the author of "Broken Water," I'm pleased to share the preface of this memoir with you. It explains how the book came to be and why I wrote it. It places it in the context of current day issues of child abuse.
Rev. Barbara Lane
I have worked with individuals from all walks of life--all races, cultures, and creeds, often referred to me through rehab centers, counselors, psychiatrists, and physicians. In addition, I have spent many years working as a child advocate, studied family psychology with a focus on child abuse and worked with abused and neglected children and their families.
The curious, brave, strong, and magnificent child you once were is still within you just waiting to be honored! During my 25-plus years in practice, I have sat with many who have struggled to come to terms with their past or to deal with current life issues. Even if your childhood was stellar, life events can be traumatizing. I have had my own struggles and presume I will have more.
Healing involves challenging the negative messages you carry around inside your mind and replacing them with words, stories, and expressions that offer hope and reveal your magnificence and the glorious child you once were.
In my efforts to help souls heal from trauma, I am honored to be writing the first in my series of "Broken Water" Personal Growth Workbooks - "WHAT YOUR INNER CHILD KNOWS: 9 Steps To Rescue Your Abused Inner Child. Drawing from my years of experience working with individuals, couples and families, this workbook is designed to help you grow personally and spiritually. Barbara Lane Personal Growth Workbooks are also helpful resources for counseling sessions, group sessions and church prayer meetings. I hope you find inspiration in each of the upcoming releases. I am writing them to help you help yourself.
Many of us have a vulnerable inner child just waiting for recognition and love. If we were lucky, we received these gifts from our primary caretakers, but all too often, we are left trying to fill a void throughout our lives.
This unmet need is carried forward into adulthood and will inevitably leads to choices and decisions that are harmful and nonproductive. The need as an infant and young child to attach and bond to a loving caretaker is innate but when a secure attachment cannot be developed, destructive choices in partners, careers and other adult decisions await the growing child. Unconsciously, as driven by the inner child's needs, individuals look outside of themselves to fill that emptiness. Rarely does this end in a happily ever after story.
This online course presents a concise yet powerful nine-step program to help you learn how to become the adult your inner child needs in order to discover the magnificence you were born to embrace. Together, the adult and inner child become one integrated, whole individual.
Excerpt from the course: What Your Inner Child Knows:
To feel shame is to listen to your own inner moral guide. It is an innate feeling that leads to positive growth. To be shamed by another is to be poisoned. Constantly being shamed distances you from the reality of who you are--a divine child. If you were shamed as a child, you will not hear your inner guidance but rather identify with the toxicity of those who shamed you.
Course Lessons Include:
1-Accepting the Truth of Your Childhood
2-Honoring the Child That You Once Were
3-Learning to Recognize Your Strengths
4-Utilizing Your Strengths
5-The In-Between Place
6-Confronting the Critical Mind
7-Creating an Action Plan
8-Living From the In-Between Place
9-Should You Confront Your Abuser?
Each lesson includes methodology, prayers, exercises, journaling suggestions and supplemental videos. Sign up below to receive updates about this extraordinary program and how to register.
I first started working with Barbara about 2004. When I first came to her I was suffering from depression, anxiety, and self-hatred as a result of many years of abuse from my father as I was growing up. She is absolutely the best counselor that I have ever worked with, and she very likely saved my life.
She is the first person in my life that I ever experienced unconditional love from, and she put me on a successful healing path that continues to this day. I now speak publicly about my years of childhood abuse and my eventual recovery, and I always talk about the most vital part of my recovery, which was working with a fantastic counselor. That counselor was Barbara Lane.
Kelvin Pierce, Author
Sins of My Father: Growing Up with America’s Most Dangerous White Supremacist!
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